Posted 1 week ago
Posted 1 week ago
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Disclaimer: Rusty writing ahead.
This hits too much close to home because growing up, I had a ton of insecurities. Well, who didn’t, right?
Anyway, I’ll tell you now that I don’t have all the answers (or steps even) in overcoming these moments of self-doubts, but I can share some of the things I did that helped me get past my personal uncertainties.
First, I tried not to compare myself too much with others. I’m almost 100% certain that everybody does this and it’s perfectly normal. Inevitable, even. These comparisons are a challenge to avoid, but I realized, the more I did this, the more insecure I became. So in short, I stopped. Or at least minimized doing so (I still have those ‘I wish I was her’ moments but I don’t let them linger). It’s okay to acknowledge other people’s looks or things, but when it starts to hurt our ego or self-esteem, all we have to do is to stop. We should really focus more on US rather than focus our time and energy towards everyone else around. When I started minding my own business, I stopped comparing myself with others.
Acceptance. Of everything. What I have, who I am and where I’ve been. Basically, I’ve learned and come to accept the reality of me (if that even makes sense). I always compared myself to girls with really gorgeous hair, flawless legs and straight teeth and thinking how much better my life would be if I had those assets as well. All this time, I was being too hard on myself with all my flaws instead of accepting them as they are. I have really kinky hair, ugly legs and crooked teeth to name a few of them. But as I matured, I was able to come to terms with these small imperfections. Yes, I don’t have straight hair or teeth, but my curly locks and uneven smile are what gives me character (as my friends would compliment). Yes, I have bruises and scars on my stems, but that just shows how brave I was for taking all those falls. When I learned to accept myself for ME, it was easier for me to deal with everyday stuff. It was easier for me to be myself.
I surrounded myself with positive people and I let go of those who were being toxic. This was a process more than anything, and one of the hardest I had to do. Over the years, I’ve accumulated so many acquaintances that I forgot who my REAL friends were. The funny thing was, those who I thought were my real friends were the ones who were the toxic ones. They discouraged me from chasing my dreams, talked negatively about almost everything and never considered most of my opinions just because I had other interests not similar to theirs. I got so tired of meeting up with them only to talk about so much shit that it would drain all the energy I had and I’d go home unhappy and depressed. It wasn’t healthy and I had to do something about it. So, I decided to cut some people from my life. Some temporarily, others, permanently.
After letting go of them, I started to go with people who are more goal-oriented, who ACTUALLY have dreams, who speak highly of other people and don’t criticize for fun. There is truth in the saying, ‘Show me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are’. Hanging out with positive thinkers and doers gave me more confidence, boosted my morale and gave me the luxury to actually enjoy these people’s company as it is. So far, the people I’ve surrounded myself with now have been nothing but inspiration to me. Letting go of anything is hard, but remember, when you lose something, something better is coming.
Enjoy life! Like what the late Robin Williams once said, Carpe Diem! Seize the day! Don’t let your insecurities stop you from living. Life is too short to live on insecurities. Just go with the flow, wear what you love and surround yourself with anything positive and awesome. Make YOUR life extraordinary. <3
PS. I’m sorry this took a while (and for my writing being everywhere lols). Was dealing with some stuff lately. I hope this helps tho. :) Love you girl!
— Paulo Coelho (via kushandwizdom)
Sleeping in is always a good thing. Unless you have work to do ;)) Anyway, I’m glad you had a good day, too! A shoot? Sounds like a plan. :)
Not till we are lost do we begin to find ourselves.
Posted 1 month ago
We will. Soon. :)
Posted 1 month ago
I honestly miss blogging here. For some reason, the only time I feel like posting an entry is whenever I sleep over at my lola’s place. There is some kind of force here. Like this creative aura that emanates from my brother’s room that sends my fingers typing on the keyboard. What I put down here may not make sense sometimes, but it’s better than nothing. At least I am ‘writing’.
Anyway, to help my writer’s block, I would like you - my dear followers/readers - to leave me something in my inbox. A question, a fun topic or something you would like me to write about. This will help me with my concern plus! You get to know more about me in the process. So really, it’s a win-win. :)
I have so many of you browsing this platform. It would be nice if we get to interact too.
If I ever get pregnant I think this is how I will break the news
I want to kiss you until I suffocate because I love you to death
This is for the snakes and the people they bite;
For the friends I’ve made; for the sleepless nights;
For the warning signs I’ve completely ignored.
There’s an amount to take, reasons to take more.
It’s no big surprise you turned out this way.
When they close their eyes and prayed you would change
And they cut your hair, and sent you away
You stopped by my house the night you escaped
With tears in my eyes, I begged you to stay
You said, “Hey man, I love you but no fucking way”